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15 Of The Most Profitable Small Scale Farming Ideas !

Ishan Jain

 

If you own a small land and looking for farm business tips and ideas, this article is a must-read for you.

Do you want some creative ideas for what you can do on your small-scale farm beside the obvious farming of fruits and vegetables? Now even small-scale farmers can generate more revenue from basic farming. There are various ways to earn good money in agriculture.

With the advent of latest technologies, the farming business on a large and small scale is generating more profit than ever. Technology has helped the farmers to use small spaces with maximum utilization. So now, the size of the farm doesn’t matter anymore to generate a good amount of profit. All that matters is, the input a person does to take care of the land he owns and use it in the best productive way.

If you own a small land and looking for farm business tips and ideas, this article is a must-read for you.

Check out this list of 15 creative alternative ways to put your farm to use.

It includes some of the most profitable crops for small farms, which can become great income sources if you are looking to generate money from your farm.

However, most can also be done on a small scale for your own personal use and enjoyment.

1.     Soft Fruit / Fruit Trees

If you intend on using your small farm for fruit trees, then getting them planted right away should be your priority.

Fruit trees require a lot of labor up front and you may not get a harvest for several years. But once your trees start to produce fruit, you’ll have a relatively passive food source for the life of the trees.

You just need to do some basic maintenance and harvesting, and your trees will take care of the rest.

Apples, plums, pears and peaches make great choices.

If you’re in a warmer climate with mild winters, you may even be able to grow oranges, lemons or figs.

No matter what variety of fruit you’re growing, we recommend planting dwarf fruit trees. These have a maximum height of around 8 feet, which makes them much easier to harvest from.

They also produce fruit faster than larger trees. If you plant 1-year-old dwarf apple trees, you should hopefully start to get some fruit the very next year!

Dwarf trees are also easier to tuck away into corners of your farm that wouldn’t otherwise be usable.

It’s best to choose fruit trees that will all bloom around the same time to ensure good pollination.

If trees aren’t your thing, why not try planting some blueberry or raspberry bushes instead?

Example: Wither’s Farm produces strawberries, blueberries and apples

2.     Herb Growing

You can start an herb farm from home and run it part-time. Startup costs are quite low as well: about $2,000.

If you live in a cold climate, you may want to pay to invest in a greenhouse so that you can grow herbs year-round.

Herbs fit into many other ideas on this list we’ve already discussed, such as urban farming or using hydroponics to grow them.

You can sell your herbs as-is, or market them in a number of different products including teas, candles, bath products and aromatherapy essences.

Basil, lavender, chives, cilantro, chamomile, oregano, parsley, catnip and St John’s wort are all profitable herbs to grow.

If you’re growing other vegetables, herbs come with an extra benefit: There are many types of herbs that keep bugs away.

You can interplant herbs around your other crops to repel unwanted insects while still attracting pollinators.

Example: Zack Woods Herb Farm in Vermont, USA

3.     Beekeeping

Keeping bees will produce extra products for you, as well as having other indirect benefits like making your existing crops better pollinated.

Having bees around your vegetable plants will dramatically increase your yield. In fact, some farmers will even pay to rent beehives to help pollinate their crops!

A beehive can fit just about anywhere. You can have just one or two hives as a hobby to start with.

Setting up your beehive doesn’t cost very much. It’s about $500 to get everything you need including your bees, clothing and equipment and bee boxes.

Each hive should produce about $200 worth of honey per year.

But bees offer a lot more than just honey.

They also provide beeswax that you can make into candles, soap, lip balm and other products.

Bee pollen, propolis and royal jelly are other bee products that are often considered superfoods and can fetch a high price.

As your hives grow and reproduce, you can even sell bees to other beginner beekeepers who are just starting their hives, or as replacement stock to beekeepers who lost their colony to swarming or disease.

Looking after your bees is very much a part-time job when you’ve only got one or two hives as well.

Expect to spend about half an hour per week looking after your beehive.

Bees require more time in warm months when you’re harvesting honey, but are less effort in the winter when the hive mostly goes dormant.

If you find that bees are really your passion, you can expand and make it the main focus of your farm and keep hundreds of hives.

For more information on why we need bees check out this useful article on Gardeners Path.

Example: Paynes Southdown Bee Farm based in Sussex, UK

4.     Growing Mushrooms

Mushrooms are a crop that most people don’t consider when it comes to farming. But there’s a big demand for them, and often a lack of supply depending on where you’re located.

While growing mushrooms you can make use of vertical space to get high yields in a small area. A single room is enough to grow a full-time income’s worth of mushrooms.

Mushrooms also have a quick growing cycle and you can get many harvests in the same amount of time that it would take to grow one season of wheat or corn.

That said, it’s good to know that they are more time and labor intensive than traditional crops like tomatoes.

5.     Growing Microgreens

Microgreens are the stage a plant goes through after they’re a sprout, but before they become a baby green and start to grow into a full-sized vegetable.

They only take a couple of weeks to grow and they’re packed full of nutrition and flavor.

Like mushrooms, microgreens are another crop that doesn’t require a ton of room to get started. You can begin growing microgreens on a small scale with just a couple of trays in your basement or greenhouse. Then your business can scale up as your confidence and demand for your product starts to grow.

You can sell them at farmers markets or direct to customers.

Chefs also love using them both as a garnish and as an ingredient in their meals.

Microgreens are an excellent way for small scale farms to grow something in the winter when it can be too cold to grow many other crops.

6.     Christmas Tree Farming

If you’ve got extra land on your small farm that you aren’t using, why not plant some firs, pines and spruces and start your own Christmas tree farm?

You can grow Christmas trees on land that isn’t practical for growing conventional crops or setting up other things like pastures or chicken coops.

The big downside to growing Christmas trees is the amount of time it takes to grow them.

Unlike other crops that only take a season to grow, you’ll need to wait 8 to 10 years from planting to harvest of your trees.

Christmas trees still require some care as well, such as shaping and pruning.

You’ll need to make sure a single leader is pointing upward and shear each tree every summer once they’ve reached about 5 feet in height to make sure the branches grow thick and form the traditional Christmas tree shape.

Overall they don’t require a tremendous amount of work though. People often prefer to harvest their own Christmas tree, which further cuts down on your own labor!

There’s also a narrow window of time that Christmas trees are profitable. People only want them during a very specific time of the year. So it’s a very seasonal crop.

You can add to your Christmas tree business by also growing holly, making your own fresh wreaths and much more.

Example: Elliot Tree Farm, a family run Christmas tree farm in Ontario, Canada

7.     Market Gardening

A market garden is a small-scale farming operation. Usually all the work is done by hand with very little machinery, and crops are sold directly to restaurants and consumers.

A market garden can include fruits, vegetables, livestock and even flowers.

Starting a market garden is a great option if you haven’t got hundreds of acres of land. Or if you only want farming to take up part of your time while you have another part-time job.

Market gardens typically focus on a wide range of different produce, as opposed to large industrial farms that normally focus on growing a single crop (which is called monoculture).

It’s a great way for people to return to a lifestyle that focuses more on living off the land without making the switch to being fully reliant on farming for an income.

Market gardens have a smaller startup cost and allow you to focus on filling specific gaps in the market that commercial farms might not be able to fill.

Example: La Ferme des Quarter-Temps. A farm run by Jean-Martin Fortier, who is the author of the book “The Market Gardener.”

8.     Permaculture

Permaculture farming is a method of agriculture that’s based on sustainability.

It moves away from harmful commercial agricultural practices like monoculture, annual tilling and other farming methods that lead to soil erosion, and the use of pesticides.

Permaculture can be defined as a permanent cultural system that is based on observing nature. It’s all about working with nature instead of going against it.

Natural principles are integrated into agricultural processes to create self-sufficient, self-abundant systems that benefit both humanity and the Earth.

Permaculture is all about whole systems thinking, and understanding how different parts of the agricultural process interact with one another.

Permaculture has three main tenets:

Caring for the earth, because without the earth humans can’t flourish;

Caring for people;

Making sure people have the resources they need.

Example: Limestone Permaculture in New South Wales, Australia

9.     Forest Gardening

A forest garden (or food forest) is a low-maintenance and sustainable way to produce food in a woodland ecosystem.

It incorporates many different types of plants such as nut and fruit trees, herbs, vines, shrubs and perennial vegetables. It’s companion planting taken to the extreme!

Forest gardening is how our ancestors would have farmed in prehistoric times before they were able to clear large, flat areas of land and didn’t yet have access to much in the way of tools.

It’s a type of agroforestry, which is integrating the benefits of trees and shrubs with livestock and crops.

This is argued to produce a more productive, healthy, sustainable, diverse and even more profitable use of land.

A seven-layer system is usually at the center of a forest gardening strategy. Forest gardeners use all different layers of the forest.

Including:

A canopy with mature trees

A low tree layer with fruit trees and nuts

A shrub layer with berries and currants

A herbaceous layer with perennial herbs and vegetables

A rhizosphere layer with roots and tubers

A ground cover layer with plants that grow horizontally

And a vertical layer of climbers and vines.

Example: Robert Hart’s Forest Garden, an early pioneer of forest gardening

10. Aquaponics

Aquaponics is a combination of a couple of different farming techniques: Hydroponics, which is growing plants without the use of soil, and aquaculture, which is growing fish or other aquatic animals.

Aquaponics combines these two practices in a symbiotic way.

Fish produce waste, which is converted into nitrites by bacteria that can be used to feed the plants.

Like most other farming styles, aquaponics can be adapted to all kinds of different levels of complexity and sizes.

Aquaponics has a long history dating back thousands of years to ancient China, where rice paddy fields were combined with farming fish such as carp and eels.

Some argue the practice may even go back further to the Aztecs who created farming islands in shallow lake beds called chinampas.

Modern aquaponic systems consist of:

A rearing tank where fish are kept.

A settling basin where uneaten fish food is captured by filters and removed.

A biofilter where bacteria that nitrifies the aquatic animal waste can live.

A hydroponics system where plants are grown.

A sump to pump water around the whole system.

Example: Aqua Grow Farms is an aquaponic farm that operates as a food bank, providing about 2,500 servings of fish and 28,000 servings of greens to families in need each year.

11. Hydroponics

Hydroponics is just aquaponics, but without the fish or other aquatic creatures!

Instead, hydroponics relies on adding nutrients to the water to help plants grow.

It’s a soilless growing method where plants only have their roots in contact with nutrient-rich water. Or they may be supported in a growing medium such as coconut coir or gravel.

Most hydroponic operations use chemical fertilizers, although more organic options like manure are also available.

There are a number of different hydroponic systems to choose from.

There are static solutions where plants are grown in containers like tubs or plastic buckets. Water may be unaerated or only gently aerated.

Then there are continuous flow systems where the solution constantly flows past the roots, which allows the plants to better absorb oxygen.

There’s aeroponics where a plant’s roots are only misted with nutrient solution and not actually submerged in liquid.

Or ebb and flow systems where plants are flooded with water and then drained several times per day.

Hydroponics are a good way to diversify your small scale farming operation and allow you to grow all year indoors or in a greenhouse. You can grow microgreens in hydroponics as well as full-sized crops.

Example: GrowUp Urban Farms, a commercial hydroponics company based in and around London, UK

12. Urban Farming

You don’t need to live in the countryside to start a small scale farm of your own!

Urban farming is growing, processing and distributing food in cities and urban areas.

It can include growing fruits and vegetables as well as beekeeping and keeping animals like chickens or even goats.

If you want to start an urban farm, the first step you’ll need to complete is checking with your city to see what your municipal by-laws say about different types of agriculture within your area.In some cities, you may be allowed to convert your whole front garden into raised beds or raise chickens in your backyards. In others you may be hit with a hefty fine.

So make sure that whatever small scale farm ideas you have are legal in your city before you begin.

Urban farming is all about making the most of the space you have. You can start off using your own garden to start growing food, and you may eventually expand and start growing on other plots in your area.

Many homeowners are willing to allow urban farmers to rip up all the grass in their unused backyard and turn their property into a productive farm.

Some may want a monetary fee for renting their property, while others may allow you to use their land in exchange for a basket of fresh produce each week during your growing season.

Example: One of the most well-known urban farmers is Curtis Stone who runs Green City Acres and grows more than $100,000 worth of produce per year on a quarter-acre of land (about 10,000 square feet.)

13. Micro Dairies

A micro dairy, also known as a micro creamery, is a small scale dairy farm.

You might want to run one all on your own, or partner together with other people who want to run a small dairy farm on a part-time basis while having other jobs as well.

To start a micro dairy, you will need about four cows and about $15,000 worth of equipment.

You can compete against larger dairy farms by offering fresh, locally grown milk. You can produce higher quality organic milk that comes from grass-fed, pasture raised cows without any antibiotics. That’s a quality of milk that industrial dairy farms simply aren’t capable of producing.

The key to a successful micro dairy is scaling up slowly. If you try to expand too fast by buying too many extra cows or making your line of dairy products too diverse, you run the risk of collapsing your business.

Having a small-scale dairy farm can be a tough as your sole business, since a small farmer can’t really compete on price with large-scale farms that produce milk for $1.50 per liter.

But it can be a great way to diversify the different products that you offer on your farm, or at least provide your family and friends with all of your own dairy products.

Example: Long Dream Farm in California is a micro dairy that produces dairy cheese, butter and yogurt

14. Plant Nursery

A plant nursery helps with your own farm by giving you a head-start on the growing season.

You can start your plants in a greenhouse weeks before the risk of frost has passed and weather is not yet warm enough to plant them outside.

You can also grow extra seedlings to sell to other farmers or to home growers with extra space that you’ve got. People will always want small plants.

Nurseries scale well. You can start small with almost zero capital and just some seeds, cuttings and soil that you already have.

Try raising 10 or 20 extra plants and see if you can sell them on Craigslist or Gumtree.

The main thing you’ll need for a plant nursery are good propagation skills.

A plant nursery won’t produce much income if your beds are full of unsprouted seeds or dead cuttings.

It’s best to pick up these skills by volunteering or working for an existing nursery before starting your own.

Example: The Agrofestry Research Trust runs a nursery stocked with a wide range of specialist food crop trees and shrubs.

15. Corn Maze

Adding a corn maze to your farm can be a great value-add.

You’ll lose some potential crops since you aren’t maximizing all of the land you’ve got available.

But in the fall once your corn maze is done, you can still harvest the majority of it.

Any lost productivity can be made up by charging people to visit and enter your maze.

But the real benefit of having a corn maze is as a marketing tool. It will bring people to visit your farm throughout the year, and they’ll then often stop to buy some of your other crops and products.

Example:The Maze Maize, a popular visitor attraction at Kelham Hall in the UK

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Meri Bhavana (My Aspirations) – Beautiful Thoughts for a Beautiful Mind from Jain Literature

Ishan Jain

Who do not long for sensual zest, whose feelings are gentle and right;  In well being of world and self, who do endeavor day and night.  Who do penance of selflessness and who have no regrets in life;  To lessen sufferings of this world, such learned sages do strife.

He who conquered love and hatred, and vanquished sensual temptation,

True cosmic knowledge who attained and showed the path to salvation;

Some may call Him Buddha, Hari, Jina, or may call him Brahma, Supreme;

His thoughts and deep devotion may be in my heart and mind and dream. 

Who do not long for sensual zest, whose feelings are gentle and right;

In well being of world and self, who do endeavor day and night.

Who do penance of selflessness and who have no regrets in life;

To lessen sufferings of this world, such learned sages do strife.

May I always look up to them and may I keep them in my mind;

Practice their conduct in my life, I wish my mind be so inclined.

May I never injure a life; of lying, may I never think;

Not wanting others' wealth and spouse, contentment-nectar may I drink.

May egotism I never feel; angry, may never I become;

On seeing others' worldly wealth, to envy may I not succumb.

May I always feel and ponder to act in true and sincere way;

I always may do good to all, as far as I can, everyday.

For living beings of the world, feelings of friendship may I show;

For woeful creatures, from my heart, may stream of kindness ever flow.

The cruel, wicked and evil doers, my mood and mind may not resent;

May thoughts of mine be so mended, of others I may be tolerant.

My heart may be so full of love, whenever I see a noble man;

My mind may be so full of joy, I serve him as much as I can.

May I never be ungrateful; malice never be in my mind;

May I not see faults of people; high virtues may I always find.

Let someone call me good or bad, let riches come or turn away,

Whether I live for million years, or I face death this very day.

Whether someone does frighten me, or even tempt me in some way;

May my steps never falter from proven good and righteous way.

Neither may I be too joyous, nor may I be nervous in pain;

I may not dread stormy river, a jungle, ghost or rough mountain.

Firm, unshaken and well balanced, my mind may ever grow and grow;

In beloved's passing, evil's face, and endurance may I ever show.

May worldly creatures be blissful, uneasiness may no one feel;

Forgetting ill will, pride and guilt, new songs of joy may sing with zeal.

May truth be talk of every home, there be no sign of evil act;

Enlightened people may improve, fruits of this life may get, in fact.

Misfortune, dread may never come; bountiful rains come well in time;

May rulers always be righteous, may justice be even, sublime.

Disease and famine may not be; may people have plenty and peace;

Nonviolence be the rule of world, may world be full of joy and ease,

May mutual love pervade the world and dark delusions fade away;

Untrue, unkind, intriguing, harsh, such words, no one may ever say.

May all become Yugvir at heart; welfare and peace may all attain;

Facing all sorrows with patience, nature of truth may all men gain.


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Why nervousness before competitions is key to success?

Ishan Jain

If you're not nervous, you're not ready. Anxiety and fear can signal that something is very important to us. For example, if you are worried about your children, it is likely because you really care about them. If you didn't have a strong relationship with them, you may experience less worry.

The nerves signal how much you care about what you're about to do, and how much you have put in to get to that moment.

Two of the most decorated Olympians in American history — gymnast Simone Biles and swimmer Katie Ledecky — said they always get nervous before competition.

If you're not nervous, you're not ready. Anxiety and fear can signal that something is very important to us. For example, if you are worried about your children, it is likely because you really care about them. If you didn't have a strong relationship with them, you may experience less worry.

Lots of people stress out about talking in front of the class or getting laughed at if they make a mistake in front of an audience. Feeling nervous before a performance is natural — and part of your body's way of helping you do your best. The "stress hormones" (like adrenaline) that your body produces at times like these can actually help you focus.

If you are anxious about a job interview, it may be because you really want that job—it matters to you. If you didn't care about the job or didn't really need it, you likely would not find the situation so threatening or anxiety-provoking.

A touch of anxiety before a big game or match is normal, and even healthy, for athletes. It’s what pumps you up for the game, keeps you focused, and gives you the competitive edge you need to strive for victory.

State anxiety is common among athletes because of the demands of sports. Especially before a big match, the pressure is on to win and to be the best. Sports place numerous stressors upon athletes, from training and competing to winning and beyond. It’s no surprise then that many athletes develop competitive state anxiety.

If you find yourself worrying about who is in the crowd watching you, or that the other competitors are better than you—remind yourself that these are aspects of the competition that are out of your control.

What you can control is your own performance, how well prepared you are, and how well you implement techniques and strategies such as progressive muscle relaxation and imagery.

Sometimes it can be important to override our anxiety and fear system. Even if our body is telling us to avoid something, we can move forward anyway, especially if we are moving toward something that is meaningful and consistent with our goals.

We may not have much control over our emotions or thoughts; however, we can always control our behaviors. At any moment, regardless of what we feel on the inside, we can make a choice to engage in behaviors that are consistent with our goals.

Tips for Controlling Competitive Anxiety

The key to competitive anxiety is accepting it. Once you accept it and learn how to manage it, it can then be used to your advantage to facilitate your performance.

These tips can help you manage that feeling:

Be prepared. You're less likely to freeze up if you're well prepared. Rehearse as much as you can and practice — alone or in front of others — at every opportunity. Practice until you feel relaxed and ready. Nothing calms nerves like the confidence that comes from knowing you're prepared.

Positive Self-Talk. Instead of dwelling on what could go wrong, rev up some positive energy. Watch a football team before they run onto the field. They get in a group and pray or sing a team song to pump themselves up with positive energy and team spirit. You can do this whether you're performing alone or as part of a group. Have a friend give you a pep talk. Practice some positive statements that you can say to yourself on competition day. Telling yourself things like “I can do it,” “I believe in myself,” or “This is going to be fun!” can make a world of difference in building up your confidence for game time.

Don't be afraid of the nervous feeling. When you feel performance jitters, don't freak out! Don't let the feeling stop you or intimidate you. Just let it be there. Remind yourself it's natural, just your nervous system revving up to get you ready and set to go. Know that it's up to you to manage it to your advantage. Use your positive pep-talk and calming strategies to do just that. Then, go for it!

Use Relaxation Techniques. Relaxation will help to bring your heart rate and blood pressure down and focus your thoughts.

One of the most effective ways to relax your body and mind is through deep breathing. Deep breathing works by filling the lungs and lifting the lower belly. This creates a relaxation response, as opposed to shallow “chest” breaths, which illicit less oxygen and increased anxiety.

Goal Setting. Winning is a good goal, but it shouldn’t be the only thing you strive for. After all, no one can win all the time. Create goals that allow you to compete with yourself. For example, maybe you are strong on offense, but you want to work on blocking. Strive to get strong in that particular area, and focus on that each competition.

Going into a game with a set of goals will give your thoughts a direction and will help you focus more on yourself and less on the anxiety.

Look after yourself. Before big performances it's easy to let taking care of yourself slip as you spend too much time on rehearsals and practice. You'll look and feel your best if you get enough sleep and eat healthy meals before your performance. Exercise can also help you feel good, and along with sleep and nutrition, is an excellent way of keeping those stress hormones from getting out of control.

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9 Positive Habits to See Things From Another's Perspective, Will Radically Increase Your Success!

Ishan Jain

Here is one of the best bits of advice ever given about the fine art of human relationships. “If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from your own.”

Here is one of the best bits of advice ever given about the fine art of human relationships. “If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from your own.”

That is so simple, so obvious, that anyone ought to see the truth of it at a glance; yet 90 percent of the people on this earth ignore it 90 percent of the time.

Why talk about what we want? That is childish. Absurd. Of course, you are interested in what you want. You are eternally interested in it. But no one else is. The rest of us are just like you: we are interested in what we want.

The only way on earth to influence other people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it.

Benefits of habit “See things from other’s perspective”

Helps gain new perspective

Helps understand others better

Helps find ways to help people out

Reduces chances of conflicts

Conflict is part of human interaction. Political foes, business rivals and arch enemies disagree and fight one another bitterly because of mutually exclusive interests. A win-win situation is sometimes not possible. Naturally, one will try to find out more about the opponent to predict or pre-empt his action. The purpose is to strategise and win in a zero-sum game.

Even partners will face conflict, although the situation is very different from that faced by foes. Partners who share many similar interests, goals and values can sometimes find themselves in disagreement.

Differences and disagreements can occur between partners or people in close working, social or family relationships. We can all recall experiences of conflict with a boss we respect, a colleague we like, a close friend we confide in or a family member we love, or even with a politician we support.

When partners are in conflict, it is constructive to do less political strategising and more perspective-taking - by which I mean to consider how things appear to the other party. It helps to be inclusive and interactive.

MISTAKING A PERSPECTIVE

There are two main pitfalls to avoid when we try to take another person's perspective.

The first is the overconfidence that we are succeeding in seeing things from another person's perspective, especially when we honestly tried.

Recall the time when our partner was displeased with our gift and doubly upset that we did not try to understand what he or she wants. The fact is we did try to take our partner's perspective, but ended up with a mistaken one.

Research has found that people are highly inaccurate when they infer what a person is thinking or feeling by observing the person's facial expressions and behaviours.

More importantly, people are overconfident that they have managed to get the person's perspective right, as shown by their own assessment of their accuracy.

The second pitfall is uncritically treating another person's perspective as valid and using it to manage the disagreement. When the perspective is based on mistaken assumptions, the consequence is often a misleading conclusion and missing the real issues.

For example, a perspective on an incident may assume that a leader had access to a critical piece of information when he made a decision.

If this assumption is factually false but not corrected or questioned, the disagreements could end up with judgments about integrity when the real issue could be information flow.

It is politically correct to say we respect different perspectives. It takes personal conviction and political courage to state the pros and cons of each perspective, especially the degree to which it is valid or invalid.

To be a true success we must possess masterful people skills. The key to successful relationships lies solely in our ability to take the perspective of another. Perspective taking is that all important skill of being able to look at things from a point of view other than our own. Perspective taking brings in the mindfulness of compassion and empathy to our relationships. When these two qualities are present in our interactions mutual respect, success and movement forward is guaranteed.

POSITIVE HABITS IN PERSPECTIVE-TAKING

In addition to avoiding overconfidence and uncritical acceptance, we can adopt three positive habits in perspective-taking.

1.  Be inclusive. Honestly consider other perspectives that are very different from our own.

When we compare opposing perspectives, we may discover similarities. When we find differences, we can see if their different strengths and weaknesses can compensate and complement each other. Drawing on both perspectives, a new and better perspective may emerge.

Ironically, inclusivity may be most important when disagreements between perspectives are based on strong values and principles. We believe in integrity, fairness, meritocracy, racial and religious harmony, accountability and rule of law. When we vigorously pursue our own perspective driven by one of these values or principles, could it be that the person we have a disagreement with is motivated by some of the other values and principles that are also dear to us?

So, we should pay attention to how a value or principle is applied to the specific context, and consider how other values and principles may be relevant.

We can also be mindful that when our perspective is dominated by a value or principle, we may end up arguing or behaving in a way that is not as valued-based or principled as we should be.

2. Think of others.

Whenever we are in the presence of another it is natural to think about what they may be thinking (if we are not self-centered). We observe them instinctively and notice subtleties such as what they are doing, where they are looking, and what their body language is indicating. This helps us determine if we feel comfortable around them which helps us decide if we want to interact with them and how.

When you’re trying to influence, don’t start by trying to pull others into your here. Instead, go to their there by to asking yourself:

Am I getting who this person is?

Am I getting this person’s situation?

Am I offering options and alternatives that will help this person move forward?

Does this person get that I get it?

3. Emotional regulation and empathy.

Perspective taking relies not only upon our ability to share emotions with others, but also upon our capacity to regulate our own emotions. To be effective with others we must be aware of what might trigger us so we can quickly refocus ourselves on what is happening with the other. When it comes to empathy, the point is not to ask ourselves what we would do in any given situation; it’s to try and understand what another would do.

If our empathic accuracy and emotional regulation skills are strong we are more successful in our interactions. We possess the depth and awareness to predict the attitudes, expectations, and intentions of others that may be very different from our own. This creates an interpersonal connectedness which is built to thrive and succeed because people feel heard, validated and understood on the other side of us.

4. Be interactive. Studies have shown true empathy does not come about by just imagining what the person is going through, no matter how hard we try.

We need to interact with the person by asking and listening to find out the concerns and circumstances as perceived or experienced by the person. This need for interaction applies to close family and social relationships, but also relationships between leaders and followers.

Over time, quality interactions build mutual trust, reciprocity norms, social cohesion and even shared values between leaders and followers. All these will motivate them to see things from each other's perspective, and facilitate conflict resolution and collaboration.

5. Correctly reading other people.

The emotions are our perspective taking guides. They help us to read people. We naturally track the behaviors of others to try and determine what they are thinking, feeling doing or planning. Our brains assist us by providing us a social radar system which helps us determine people’s motives and intentions, even when our attention is not specifically on them.

Situational Awareness: Show that You Get “It.” Show that you understand the opportunities and challenges your conversational counterpart is facing. Offer ideas that work in the person’s there. When you’ve grasped their reality in a way that rings true, you’ll hear comments like “You really get it!” or “You actually understand what I’m dealing with here.”

6. Interpreting words.

Most people speak indirectly, which requires us to infer the actual meaning of what they are trying to say. This creates a lot of room for misinterpretation, especially through text or email. We all know too well that what a person says is not always what that person actually means. In the workplace, each person has to take into account every other person’s needs and ideas to figure out how to compliment or add to the team effort, rather than to detract from it.

What we decide to say or not say requires that we interpret as accurately as possible what the other person is trying to say. If we don’t understand or we cannot get a clear idea of where another is coming from it is important to create dialogue to gain clarification. Most conflictual situations arise from a misinterpretation of what another is trying to communicate. Once communication is clear, trust is gained and success is inevitable.

7. Respecting differences.

Perspective taking requires the maturity to gain the knowledge and be respectful of another person’s personal beliefs. When we are disrespectful to another person and their belief system it is the quickest path to creating separation and division between people. It is the surest way to upset a coworker, vendor or boss.

It is important to remain highly attuned to the fact that not all people share our personal views and beliefs of the world. We must remain open-minded and respectful to what others believe when relating to them. This means knowing what not to say as much as means knowing what to say. This makes communication complicated, but it keeps you open and growing in the process of being able to put yourself aside and be respectful of the other.

8. Get to know people.

Personal Awareness: You Get “Them.” Show that you understand his or her strengths, weaknesses, goals, hopes, priorities, needs, limitations, fears, and concerns. In addition, you demonstrate that you’re willing to connect with them on a personal level. When you do this right, you’ll hear people say things like “You really get me!” or “You actually understand where I’m coming from on this.”

9. Analyze each person’s personality.

It is easy to enjoy relating to all kinds of people, however, the way in which we relate to someone has a lot to with how we perceive them to be as people. When we are around a coworker who is more serious or intellectual it calls for a different interaction approach from us then when interacting with someone who is more laid back and easy going.

Solution Awareness: You Get Their Path to Progress. Show people a positive path that enables them to make progress on their own terms. Give them options and alternatives that empower them. Based on your understanding of their situation and what’s at stake for them personally, offer possibilities for making things better — and help them think more clearly, feel better, and act smarter. When you succeed, you’ll hear comments like, “That could really work!” or “I see how that would help me.”

To some extent we all become social chameleons, making slight shifts in our behavior to fit the people and personalities we are around in an effort to best relate to them. This social adaptation does not make us fake as much as it makes us well-rounded. It allows us to use many parts of our personality to create positive and effective relationships. This kind of shifting is what makes us successful with other people and more whole and successful as individuals.

If we can be more inclusive, interactive and intermediate when we manage disagreements, many differences may converge. They become pathways towards common or complementary goals.

If we learn to see things from another's perspective and apply it adequately, we are more likely to prevent misunderstandings, enable constructive conversations and achieve win-win solutions. 

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